we have made it so complex. we are trying to to be the same. i don't think we are. i have lived such a hyper, dominant female life. i live with such a hyper, masculine guy that in-house, i have chosen the role of service. i have. >> while we're on the subject of making it work, gabby says, sex in marriage is not optional. >> it takes such a short period of time. >> oh, gosh. >> no, really. i don't mean that, you. >> think about how much time we spend doing e-mail, chit-chatting on the phone. it doesn't take that long. >> she basically says in the book that a woman should just take charge of this stuff. >> yeah. you guys got the keys to the gate. so, pretty much. >> that's true. >> she also says, by the way, in case you haven't read this part of the book. she says, every 48 hours. >> that's nice. >> it can be more often than that. >> but you come home at lunch like every other day. >> laird will tell you, sex is like exercise, you never regret it once you do it. former proathlete or not, gabby will tell you, exercise is like sex, you are not always in the mood but yo